It's amazing what you can remember about your life. How simple conversations and seemingly insignificant moments can shape you, change your perception, and even alter your life. I cherish these moments. Some are harsh- be it on the receiving end or not. Others give me such a sense of warmth and comfort I like to visit them often. I wonder what moments my children will remember. What things I may say that will shape them and how they will handle what the world throws at them.
One of my key moments came from my mom several years ago.
Yes mom, I do actually listen from time to time.
I don't remember why she shared this with me; probably to encourage me about something. She told me how she always wanted to be a large animal vet. But, at the age of 30 she found herself as a single mother working to support her family and that she felt she was too old to fulfill her dream. It was only in hindsight of 20+ years that make her realize she could have done it. That even at 30 she was still young and if she had tried she might have spent the next 20 years going something that she loved- working with animals. Her point was simple; you are never to old to be happy and do what you love. Or at least that is what I took away from the story. Part of me is sad that I unintentionally held her back. I know my mother does not blame me, instead she inspires me to follow what I love and to never settle.
My point is simple. Life happens. It moves forward like the waves on an ocean. You can choose to be carried along and enjoy the ride or you can float aimlessly. I personally think grabbing a surfboard and carving your own path is the way to go. You may fall, crash, and feel like you are drowning at times, but once you catch your breath and try again you will have the time of your life.